Working the system

August 22, 2010 at 8:49 am 5 comments

Long-term marriage is somewhat rare these days.  I should know…I’m on my third one. But this one is the real deal.  After 12 years together, we finally tied the knot, and the proverbial knot has remained intact for 10 years since. For me, it’s been a matter of learning how to work the system.

You see, most couples who have been together a long time will tell you that one of the keys to a happy marriage is compromise. It’s give and take—and you have to be willing to give more than your share.  Husband and I have learned how to do that successfully.

For example, if I want to go to the casino and he wants to __________ (fill in the blank with something most men always want to do), we compromise. He takes me gambling, and in exchange, I come home and ____________ (fill in the blank with whatever word or phrase you used in the previous sentence.  OR if I want him to sit on the dock and fish with me for awhile and he wants to ______________ (you get the idea), we compromise. He fishes with me one morning, and I ___________ (you know…).

It took me awhile to figure out that he is the perfect husband if I “work the system” correctly.  I suppose it sounds better to say that I figured out how to reach a compromise or learned the art of give-and-take. But no matter how you say it, it’s really just working the system.  And if you do that successfully, the system works for you!


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5 Comments Add your own

  • 1. Annski  |  August 22, 2010 at 9:16 am

    What you’ve got here is a great game of Mad Libs!

    I find that muttering out of earshot works pretty well for me. Of course, Tom’s earshot is growing closer every day. I also discovered that blowing a big raspberry from time to time, at least, makes me feel better.

    Glad you’ve figured it out! You two make a great pair!

    • 2. Rita  |  August 23, 2010 at 1:59 pm

      I wonder if “blowing a big raspberry” means what I think it means. LOL!

      And why—please tell—-is there a ‘p’ in rasberry?

  • 3. kaffy  |  August 22, 2010 at 1:50 pm

    Yes,working the system. I agree…but mine looks a bit different. I am a complete fish out of water tolerating the high heat and humidity here alllll these years compared to how I spent the first half of my life. So one of our trade offs(compromises) is he got the Harley and can go ride whenever he wants and I get to leave all of july for the new mexico mountains and do humidity,need a jacket in the morning and at night. I still get all his bookwork done from there…so perfect…and the best part is we BOTH think we are getting a way better deal than the other one! (I should have shot for august also this year uggg)

    • 4. Annski  |  August 22, 2010 at 5:05 pm

      Wow, a month in the mountains to be creative! I’d definitely count THAT in the WIN column!

      • 5. Rita  |  August 23, 2010 at 1:57 pm

        Yep, July in the mountains would be nice, but I’d have to go for August instead. UGH!

        We made an interesting compromise for the cruise… 🙂

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